Update: Entitled woman texts a "list of requirements" to no-contact sister-in-law, demanding to stay at her home on her birthday: 'You are not staying at my house. You are not invited'

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Remy Millisky • Writer and Editor
Dec 26, 2025 3:00 PM EST

What would you do if a random family member texted you with a list of 5 demands they have for staying at your house? That's what this person is dealing with when their totally delulu sister-in-law messaged them out of the blue. 

Staying at someone else's home, even a family member's place, requires a decent amount of planning. The host has to wash sheets and blankets, make beds, clean bathrooms, buy extra food, make sure they have enough dishes for everyone. And once the guest is there, it's polite to help out with that extra cooking and cleaning as a sign of gratitude towards the host. Even when it's your family, it's pretty common to abide by these rules, right? That's why it's so odd — and amusing to the rest of us reading the tale — that this person's sister-in-law decided to text out of the blue with 5 demands for her visit. 

A few caveats. The sister-in-law is not invited. She isn't even welcome! She's been in a no-contact situation with this person for over a year, yet suddenly, she announces that she's visiting next Saturday. She'd also like her bedding to be washed in a specific detergent, and she "needs" a king or queen size bed because "I need a lot of room when I sleep." Uh… okay then… 

Not to mention that the SIL wants to visit on this person's birthday! She wants to move the birthday celebrations around in order to accommodate her visit. Like I said, totally delulu behavior! 

Commenters urged this person to act like they didn't know which number was messaging them in the first place. I mean, if you're no-contact with someone for an entire year and then they suddenly message to see if they can stay with you, I think the automatic reaction is one of confusion. A message replying something like, "Hey, I think you meant to send this to someone else," might be effective. It lets that person know that you're confused and you're not going to put up with any ridiculousness. 

This person didn't choose to go that route, but you can check out the absolute insanity down below, as well as their update when this hapless traveler SIL finally replied. Hope the SIL has plans to get a hotel or Airbnb instead, because she's certainly not staying with family! 

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    'SIL and crazy demands!'

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    Hi! I am excited to see you on Saturday! I have a few questions or requirements. #1- I know we will arrive on your birthday, but do we have to do a cake or celebrate? Not being shallow, but I think we should move an celebrations until the 28th. So we can celebrate/open gifts on the 27th.
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    #2- please wash all bedding in Tide free detergent the day we arrive. No candles or other scents should be in the room. I get frequent headaches.
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    #3- do you have a meal plan? If not, let's do a quick call to discuss my diet restrictions. #4- the bed needs to be a queen/king. I need a lot of room when I sleep.
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    #5- where will Millie sleep? She is not to be left outdoors, so stock up on your allergy meds!
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    Honestly, I'm at a loss for words. I have been NC with my SIL for over a year. I received a text today from an unknown number with a LIST of requirements. My husband says he never
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    invited her and she lives 10+ hours away! I'm half tempted to ignore. her message and see if she shows up. I will absolutely make turn around and leave.
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    Here's the update! They decided to go with memes!

    WHO THE HELL IS THIS? Who dis?
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    Well don't I feel like the forgotten. I know it's been a while and all but we are family. I'm going to say this in the kindest way possible. You are not staying at my house. You are not invited.. I have not been in contact for a reason.
    via u/rarawhit
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    Not to be rude. But it's your husband's house. He's the man and provider of the home and frankly, will have the last word of who is invited to his house.
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    W OH FOR FLY'S SAKE Uhhhhhhhh. 13:47 MMS
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    I'm not going to dignify an answer to your dumbass retort. The answer is NO. YOU will not show up on my birthday. YOU will not drive 10+ hours to my house and ruin my holidays. There is a reason you did not get an invite unlike everyone else. I will be screenshotting this and sending it to my family.
    via u/rarawhit
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    HAVE A GREAT DAY! I really hope my brother cheats on you. 14:01 MMS
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    So, I took the advice of many and replied back with a who dis? And this is what happened. At this point, I am not responding back to her and letting it be. I will update if she shows up on my birthday!
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